Self-love is key to maintaining your healthy, ideal weight. The body has a natural ability to create and maintain the perfect weight for you as long as you are aligned with your true self. For in your true self is everything that is good and perfect about you. By getting back to the truth of who you really are, the real you, you will get to a place where all your problems with weight begin to disappear. Only the power of love can help you find your true self. You have to understand love, a power that is greater than your own. In fact, it’s greater than any addiction or eating disorder that you may have. Learning to love will allow you to overcome the power of hate because the truth is that unhealthy eating is an act of self-hate. (more…)Read more
I watched Terrell (0 body fat) Owens on the sideline say emphatically, “I Love Me Some Me!” He said it with so much passion and conviction that you know he means it! So, it got me to thinking, how does one actually “love me some me”. Well, first it starts with improving the relationship we have with ourselves. If you love yourself and have confidence in who you are, you’ll begin to send a signal to others that you have value and deserve respect. An improved sense of self will lead you to a more fulfilling love life. Loving yourself first sends a clear message that you are to be recognized, celebrated, appreciated and loved.
Sometimes our sense of self-worth or self-esteem is shaped by the people in our inner circle. Some of us have family members and friends ruining our self-esteem every day. Even if they are your flesh and blood, try to remove yourself from their presence as much as possible. Hurtful words negate any progress towards self-worth and self-love.
When I was younger, I dated a man who always put his needs before mine. He needed a favor, or some money to hold him over, or a ride somewhere. I’ve learned that there is nothing wrong with making sacrifices for someone else, but not if it always comes at my expense. On occasion, a favor is fine, but if the man is not making adjustments or sacrifices for you, then stand up for yourself. You shouldn’t be the only one inconvenienced in the relationship. You will need to maintain a sense of control in your romantic relationship, so speak up for what you want and need in life.
As women, we are mothers, wives, daughters, sisters, employees, business owners, and sometimes we perform all of these roles within the same hour of the day. Women have experienced a lot and continue to be the rock of the family. We all have those moments when we endure life’s tests and others where we overcome great challenges. Therefore, it is important to remember your personal breakthroughs in life and draw strength from them. These triumphant times increase our self-esteem.
If you don’t truly know yourself and what you want out of relationship, how can you attract the right man into your life? Before you can truly know what you want out of a relationship, you have to have a sense of what your needs and wants are and what truly makes you happy.
It is also important to love your physical appearance and what you look like. It is important to get comfortable with your body. You must appreciate and accept who you are on a physical level. In my book, Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating, I discuss how to maximize your physical beauty, but here I will simply say love your body. Loving your body is about having a healthy body, regardless of your size or body type. And you do this through a healthy diet, exercise and sleep/relaxation. A healthy body is a sexy body. Luckily, men love the many colors, shapes and sizes that we come in, and we appreciate men for letting us know how beautiful we are as women.
One important step in loving yourself is when you stop trying to please everybody else in your life. As we grew up, we often would try to make our mom or dad proud, our teachers, and maybe our pastors, but as an adult, we don’t have the time or energy to try and constantly please others. You will have to prioritize your own needs over the needs of others. I know this may sound selfish; however, once you adjust to this concept, you’ll free up more time and energy for yourself.
Commit to developing a relationship with yourself. Learn to say no to others so you can spend more time learning and meeting your needs. Commit time to doing things that you enjoy that are just for you. Some of us are so busy at work, church, and family obligations that we neglect time with ourselves. But you need to carve out time to invest in you. Make yourself a priority in your life!
JJ Smith (http://www.jjsmithonline.com is a nutritionist and certified weight-management specialist who has been featured on The Montel Williams Show, The Jamie Foxx Show and on the NBC, FOX, CBS and CW networks. Her advice has also been featured in the pages of Glamour, Essence, and Ladies Home Journal. Since reclaiming her health, losing weight, and discovering a “second youth” in her forties, bestselling author JJ Smith has become the voice of inspiration to women who want to lose weight, be healthy, and get their sexy back! JJ may be contacted by email at firstname.lastname@example.org and on Twitter: jjsmithonline and Facebook Page: RealTalkJJRead more